Tuesday, September 21, 2010


As a child I made friends to "play" with. As a teen I made friends to "hang" with. As an adult, and in my case mother, I make friends to set up "play dates" with and to empathize with. I am lucky enough to have made a friend that I played with, hung out with and have now come full circle and yet again play with. I am so blessed to have this amazing friendship that has helped us both make it through life thus far.
In Arizona for a dance competition
sleepover in the backyard and tent collapsed

As children this friend and I rode our bikes all through our neighborhood! Some of these bike trips were more eventful then others (don't worry Linz for your dignity's sake I won't tell the bike story LOL).We slept out on my trampoline and stayed up late giggling. We were the most boy crazy girls you have ever met! At age 12 we were not allowed to date so we would just go for a bike ride or go for a walk and "accidentally" bump into the latest crush that week and hang out for a while then go home feeling so clever. We would get into my friends house and her mom somehow always knew! (She recently told us just how many eyes she had out there watching us.) When we were FINALLY allowed to date (waiting at 15 to turn 16 felt like an eternity!) and FINALLY allowed to drive our adventures got grander and we were so excited that we might actually be able to get away with things (now that all the moms in the ward couldn't see us)! Unfortunately for us all those years of girls camp, mutual activities, seminary and other "boring" things our parents made us attend had some kind of an effect on us... so we couldn't bring our selves to lie and as a result still got in trouble. Now we would try to tweek the truth to sounding not so bad but we couldn't just look in our parents faces and tell a flat out lie. Looking back at us "tweeking" the truth or telling half truths I don't know how our parents kept a straight face listening to our absurd stories. We were dumb enough to try to tell my friends mom that our date at age 15 was a ym/yw activity without the leaders!

Ash fight as Beehives at Oakcrest

I could go on for days about the shenanigans we tried to pull and the trouble we found ourselves in but that isn't the point of this post. The point of this post is that I am realizing how blessed I am! As those young clueless boy crazy teenagers our dream was to be around boys all day! To get married to the cutest, funniest boys who would get along and be great friends. Well guess what? We did marry the greatest guys out there and they do get along great and we were both blessed with a house full of boys! We don't even need our velcro room because we learned as adults that WE as moms need time outs more then the kids do! Not because we are naughty but just to re-energize. We also learned that cake is a much better and tastier time out then velcro! On top of all that we are still laughing together, we still dance together (LOVE "just dance" for the wii), we cake decorate, we watch our boys learn and play together, we dread the day the girls come knocking on our doors together and we are still silly together!

us and our little boys

playing in the backyard 2010

Halloween one year in Jr. High....don't ask...haha
the annual taste of Kearns

9th grade promotion

We took a cake we made together to her moms house just a couple weeks ago. As we drove through that old neighborhood I looked at her and said can you believe we are here! I asked her if she ever thought we would be driving through that same neighborhood as adults together in her minivan full of kids! I had a nostalgic moment and was so grateful to be sitting there with my childhood friend.

hanging out eating pizza

Soccer 1999

I mentioned in my last post that I had a friend who has been such a huge support to me in the past few months. Well I didn't mention it has really been the past 20 some odd years she has been a support to me! I am so blessed to have been given such a good friend so early in life and who has stuck with me for so long. I am blessed to have been given the MANY times we have laughed until we both nearly piddled our pants! I am so blessed to be able to watch my kids now play with her kids. I am so blessed to have been welcomed into her family who helped shape me into the person I am today. I am so blessed to have been able to spend time with the perfect and sweet baby she was blessed with for the short while he was here. I am so blessed to have the knowledge of the eternal plan. Saturday my heart broke for this friend of mine. While I wish I could heal her heart for her I am the one again being blessed by her. She is showing such amazing strength! She is remembering the plan of salvation that we were taught in our youth and is leaning on our Savior. I truly believe amidst all this difficult and sadness that there are little blessings and perhaps miracles taking place. My prayers are for this childhood friend, her wonderful husband and her boys at this time. Prayer is amazing! Prayer is Powerful!

Logan with Perfect Baby Carter

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

My new found therapy...Cake!

Cakes. Oh how I love to create cakes! I have created and decorated cakes twice a year for the past 6 years and am just realizing that this is perhaps therapeutic for me! Sounds strange I know. I am by no means a wonderful baker. And I am definitely an amateur when it comes to my techniques when decorating. So how is it therapeutic? Well why don't I start with why I love it when I am really not so great at it. I guess I like it because it is calming, stress relieving and most importantly FUN. If I put something on and change my mind there is a delicious way to fix it....the scrape and lick technique works wonderfully! And even better yet if it doesn't turn out the way I imagined, my kids (now 6 and 4) could care less! They are a pretty easy to impress audience.
The boys get to be around while I bake the cakes but then when building and decorating begins they are banished from the kitchen (probably another reason I love it...it's selfish, quiet, me time) so that I can surprise them with the finished product. The satisfaction that comes with seeing the final product and then seeing my kids reactions is priceless! This has been a hobby of mine since my twins first birthday when I made there first birthday cake. Like I said I do it twice a year and look forward to it a couple months before each birthday. Up until recently those two times a year have been the only times I make enough time to enjoy my secret hobby.
I have a wonderful friend who recently asked me to help her make her son a cake. I was very hesitant at first. Like I said I am by no means a professional. I was very flattered but very scared. I have known this good friend of mine for.....hmmm...actually I don't remember NOT knowing her! We grew up together and have been through A LOT together! I finally realized that if the cake was a disaster she would probably forgive me, our friendship would survive and we would laugh about it :) Before I knew it I was decorating cakes with her for her whole family! She has developed a love for this as well and now I have somebody to create with! Her asking me to help her was such a small thing but at the same time such a big thing. Which brings me to the therapy part. Without getting into all the specifics lets just say the past couple months have been very hard, stressful and trying for me in many aspects of my life. This has been the perfect stress reliever and perfect escape! I give all my attention to a cake I am working on and somehow everything else weighing on my mind is pushed out for the hour or so I work on a cake. After finishing a cake and feeling the satisfaction that comes with that I am more positive and am able to go back to an issue in life and deal with it more positively and have a clear head to think through problems. It may seem silly but it has been great for me! Some cakes are better then others and some are bigger then others. But whether they are a success or disaster (more disaster then success usually) the process is still so fun and now even therapeutic. Here are a few cakes from my kids birthdays and some that my friend and I have done together.

Karson and Kaidens 5th Birthday Cakes were a giraffe and monkey for a jungle themed party

The twins got bikes for their 4th birthday so they had a bike cake

If any of you have met Logan you have met Animal! He had an animal cake for his 2nd Birthday

Logans Airplane cake for his 1st Birthday

Seattle Sea Hawks Cake for Roger

This is the most recent creation my friend and I made together for her nephews 3rd Birthday
He loves dump trucks
My friend has given me the excuse I need to make time to try to de-stress and focus on something positive. So now as I sit here with my broken down AGAIN car I will think of ideas for the next birthday cake and be happy. I have a wonderful life with wonderful family and wonderful friends and am going to go eat a piece of cake :)

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Okay folks I am going to learn (or at least attempt to learn) how to blog :). I guess I'll learn by blogging about our most recent out of state trip. Hopefully I can figure this out!

We had a family wedding in the Oregon/Washington area last month and decided to make a mini vacation out of it. Justin wasn't able to take the time off work so it was going to be just the boys and I. The thought of traveling over a 1,000 miles and being a tourist in the big city of Seattle by myself scared the living daylights out of me! My mom, Emily and Rojer came to the rescue and we decided to all go down together in one car. The driving wasn't to bad for the boys because we left at about 11:00 PM and got to Vancouver WA by about 11:00 AM so they slept most of the time.

Day One we went to the Tillamook Cheese Factory and got oodles of squeeky cheese! We also got icecream from the creamery and then went down to the beach. That's Haystack Rock behind us and it is one of the most photographed rocks in the world.

My sister, Emily and I

This is my adorable Kai bug Before he was swept up by a wave.

Day Two we went to Seattle! It was a beautiful city! Here is Kaiden, Logan and Karson on top of the Space Needle

The view from the top.

Space Needle!

Day Three we went to Multnomah Falls.

The boys love to be outside and wanted to stay at the waterfall ALL day!

Day Four we went to VooDoo Doughnuts. It was the best doghnut I have ever had! I am trying to talk Justin into driving the 1,000 miles just to eat there!

After our doughnuts and sugar coma wore off we got ready and went to the wedding that evening. This is Karson and the bride. The wedding was at the Queen Anne Victorian Mansion and was absolutely gorgeous!

My boys are dancing machines! The photographer absolutely loved them and they were the life of the party! When Justin talked to Karson and asked what his favorite part of the wedding was he told him it was when he was dancing and a guy came and told him he was a dancing machine lol.

They danced all night and then crashed hard! It was a great night!

Okay so if anybody is reading this then I guess my first attempt at a post was a success and I published it :) I am still trying to figure out some short cuts or cute things to do with it so any suggestions are welcome!