As a child I made friends to "play" with. As a teen I made friends to "hang" with. As an adult, and in my case mother, I make friends to set up "play dates" with and to empathize with. I am lucky enough to have made a friend that I played with, hung out with and have now come full circle and yet again play with. I am so blessed to have this amazing friendship that has helped us both make it through life thus far.
In Arizona for a dance competitionsleepover in the backyard and tent collapsed
As children this friend and I rode our bikes all through our neighborhood! Some of these bike trips were more eventful then others (don't worry Linz for your dignity's sake I won't tell the bike story LOL).We slept out on my trampoline and stayed up late giggling. We were the most boy crazy girls you have ever met! At age 12 we were not allowed to date so we would just go for a bike ride or go for a walk and "accidentally" bump into the latest crush that week and hang out for a while then go home feeling so clever. We would get into my friends house and her mom somehow always knew! (She recently told us just how many eyes she had out there watching us.) When we were FINALLY allowed to date (waiting at 15 to turn 16 felt like an eternity!) and FINALLY allowed to drive our adventures got grander and we were so excited that we might actually be able to get away with things (now that all the moms in the ward couldn't see us)! Unfortunately for us all those years of girls camp, mutual activities, seminary and other "boring" things our parents made us attend had some kind of an effect on us... so we couldn't bring our selves to lie and as a result still got in trouble. Now we would try to tweek the truth to sounding not so bad but we couldn't just look in our parents faces and tell a flat out lie. Looking back at us "tweeking" the truth or telling half truths I don't know how our parents kept a straight face listening to our absurd stories. We were dumb enough to try to tell my friends mom that our date at age 15 was a ym/yw activity without the leaders!
Ash fight as Beehives at Oakcrest
I could go on for days about the shenanigans we tried to pull and the trouble we found ourselves in but that isn't the point of this post. The point of this post is that I am realizing how blessed I am! As those young clueless boy crazy teenagers our dream was to be around boys all day! To get married to the cutest, funniest boys who would get along and be great friends. Well guess what? We did marry the greatest guys out there and they do get along great and we were both blessed with a house full of boys! We don't even need our velcro room because we learned as adults that WE as moms need time outs more then the kids do! Not because we are naughty but just to re-energize. We also learned that cake is a much better and tastier time out then velcro! On top of all that we are still laughing together, we still dance together (LOVE "just dance" for the wii), we cake decorate, we watch our boys learn and play together, we dread the day the girls come knocking on our doors together and we are still silly together!
the annual taste of Kearns
9th grade promotion
We took a cake we made together to her moms house just a couple weeks ago. As we drove through that old neighborhood I looked at her and said can you believe we are here! I asked her if she ever thought we would be driving through that same neighborhood as adults together in her minivan full of kids! I had a nostalgic moment and was so grateful to be sitting there with my childhood friend.
hanging out eating pizza
I mentioned in my last post that I had a friend who has been such a huge support to me in the past few months. Well I didn't mention it has really been the past 20 some odd years she has been a support to me! I am so blessed to have been given such a good friend so early in life and who has stuck with me for so long. I am blessed to have been given the MANY times we have laughed until we both nearly piddled our pants! I am so blessed to be able to watch my kids now play with her kids. I am so blessed to have been welcomed into her family who helped shape me into the person I am today. I am so blessed to have been able to spend time with the perfect and sweet baby she was blessed with for the short while he was here. I am so blessed to have the knowledge of the eternal plan. Saturday my heart broke for this friend of mine. While I wish I could heal her heart for her I am the one again being blessed by her. She is showing such amazing strength! She is remembering the plan of salvation that we were taught in our youth and is leaning on our Savior. I truly believe amidst all this difficult and sadness that there are little blessings and perhaps miracles taking place. My prayers are for this childhood friend, her wonderful husband and her boys at this time. Prayer is amazing! Prayer is Powerful!